Question by xo_bebe: Ex boyfriend is with a new girl within one week of breaking up with me?
Bare with me it’s a long story.
My ex (recently 19) and I (18) live 2.5 hrs away from each other, we would have been dating a year a couple of days ago. We would talk very often over MSN and webcam, phone, and try to see each other every weekend if possible (taking coach bus, a bit on the expensive side).
He’s my first boyfriend and first for everything so he really meant a lot to me (I’m hoping the same for him =/).
This past Christmas I spent over $ 300 on him and I gave him his gift the weekend before Christmas. It was also the first time we ever did ‘it’.
He was supposed to come down New Years Eve to give me my gift. I then found out from him, he returned my gift that he ordered online for me so he could go out Boxing Day shopping to buy xbox 360 and games for himself, and then tells me our plans for New Years are cancelled cause he wasted his money. I really don’t care about the gift, but a card would have been nice.
I find out in early February his dad has cancer, so my phone bills went through the roof over 100 just in long distance, I was a huge support system for him. Then he totally skipped Valentine’s Day on me and says ‘Oh I forgot, but Happy Belated Valentine’s Day’, I know it’s not really a holiday but you a little something would have been nice, it’s my first time ever being with someone around that time of year.
Then he asked me to come up the weekend after that to see him, after calling me a few choice words(for not seeing him lately) which I wish not to repeat, and I refused as I had come up 3 weekends in a row and it’s his turn. But he said he has ‘no money’ and it’s impossible for him. (Personally I feel the relationship needs to work both ways with the financial situation, it can’t just be me paying for everything and me always going up to see him, and that is what was happening).
Things just got even worse after that, he started talking to me less, I would try and call him and he would ignore me.
So recently he broke up with me (St. Patricks Day, 17th) right before his birthday the 20th, and me leaving on vacation for the 21st. He left me via a facebook relationship status, pathetic, I know. He didn’t have the decency to say anything, see me or at least call me.
After he broke up with me he told me it was not because he hates me, but because of the distance and expenses. He also said I’m still his bestfriend and we’ll still see eachother, and he’ll come down and visit since he got his license, because I apparently ‘mean a lot’ to him. He told me not to think of him as a mistake, because he’s one of the good guys that doesn’t use girls. =/
As soon as he left me (that day) he started talking to a new girl (from his city), and within a week they were dating (found that out over checking facebook on vacation =/, really made my holidays great, crying in bed for the last 3 days).
As if someone breaking up with you isn’t hard enough, they are already with a new girl. Now when I try to talk to him it’s one word answers, or if I call, he won’t pick up, almost as if he’s trying to blow me off (he said it was difficult to talk, yet he wanted to still be friends?) and it’s like I have to work around his schedule to talk to him.
I don’t know what I’m doing 
I feel so crushed inside, not just because he broke up with me, but the whole new girlfriend thing.
He was my first and I was his first, and I feel like I regret that we did ‘it’, because it meant something to me but I don’t know if it did for him?
I recently initiated seeing him this weekend or next week, so I could give him his birthday gift, he turned 19 on the 20th, but I was leaving for a family vacation.
I just thought we could spend a few hours together, and I could get everything off my chest and it would feel a lot better.
I just wanted to note one other thing, which is VERY stupid. It was juvenile on my part at the time, thinking I could trust him as he’s my first. We would take nude/ semi-nude photos, as the distance would get to us sometimes (nothing exposed down there, but covered up).
Our break up was rather smooth as I tried to be calm about it and I asked him if he deleted the photos. He told me he deleted them a while ago, and I asked him again just to make sure and he got a little angry and said he did. I want to believe he did, but I don’t know it’s difficult for me to think so. I was thinking I could check, or he could show me when I go to see him or if I go?
I know it was a very immature thing of me to do and I don’t plan on ever doing it again. I’m worried about him exposing them, it was just before I turned 18 late last year. He said he would never do such a thing, but I still am worried.
I just need a suggestion in what to do
I’m a very emotional person when it comes to things like these, I can’t just blow if off like it is nothing.
I feel used, worthless, like the relationship we had meant nothing to him at all, and he’s already with a new
girl.
Should I go or not? Talk to him or block all contact for a while?
I just want to note, I have no intention of going back with him. I’m going into university this fall on a full scholarship and I have a future ahead of me and don’t have time for the mind games.
Best answer:
Answer by Rolando Ku$ h
It happens I say you keep going with your life and find someone who loves you because he obviously didnt.
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